Trying to make new friends as an adult is like couples dating. I have only been back home for just under two years now and making friends is not an easy thing to do. When you were young friends came as easy as breathing. You were trapped in a building for hours a day with hundreds of other people your age all with the common bonds of teenage angst, teacher gripes and new found crushes. As an adult it is not that simple. Sure, you have people you meet through work but often that is the only common factor between you and nights out are spent discussing work issues and grips. Not always healthy.
People are always saying that if you go out to pubs and nightspots that you will make friends. Really? Would someone like to explain to me the process of this. It is not like picking up a sexual partner. There is no flirting tango for friendship. And let's be honest, if someone came up to you in a bar and starting talking you would think you were either getting hit on or stalked.
Then there is the party poach as I like to call it. This is the most comical and often the situation that my husband and I are in. You are invited out for dinner or to a party by another friend. Upon your arrival you discover another amazing couple that you could see yourself being friends with. You are all chatting everything is going well....your husband and you start to give each other that look like they are great!! We must steal them. But how? You both spend the next while while trying to "sell" yourself. You are funny and pleasant and make zingy comments. But this isn't like high school. You won't just run into them in the hallway the next day. So you do what any adult trying to make friends in the big city does. You log on to facebook add them via your mutual friends profile and hope they accept.
Friend dating....someone should have a website for this...
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